Cherishment is a lucid, deliciously sensitive book which begins with a mystery –a missing word in the English language—and concludes with important implications for human development and the practice of psychotherapy.
— Irvin D. Yalom, MD
This ranged from Sigmund Freud’s affectionate current, to D.W. Winnicott’s good-enough mother, to John Bowlby’s attachment psychology. Always focused on listening for amae themes in therapy and emotionally based interventions, Faith, later in Cherishment, elaborated further on amae, enlightening her readers to amae being everywhere—in the arts, culture, collaborations of all kinds, and day to day life.
amae: The expectation to be sweetly and indulgently loved.
amaeru: To depend and presume upon someone’s sweet and indulgent love.
As she explains: “This tender, open, playful, heart to heart kind of love is something we all recognize spontaneously when we encounter it. It takes us right back to childhood because it is rooted in the loving care a baby expects pre-verbally. Amae (i.e. tenderness), when you are able to receive it, makes you able to give it. Frustration of this need is the key ingredient in all sorts of states in which people are isolated from the world, cut off from each other, unreceptive to love, and unable to ask for help.”
In a span of over 25 years in both private and clinical practice, providing individual psychotherapy to late adolescents and to adults and couples of all ages, Faith continues to assist her patients to manifest healthier, more satisfying and more joyful lives. Now, with this website, and a new book titled Tenderness: The Way to a Deeper and Sweeter Connection with Ourselves, Each Other and Mother Earth in the works, Faith is extending her message and bringing tenderness teachings to the world at large.