As a psychologist it’s my job as well as my great passion and joy to help people find their center and their own unique “way.” I do this by helping them identify and remove whatever blocks their path, dims their light, and shuts down their heart. By rediscovering the tender part of themselves that they’ve disavowed they can move forward on their life’s journey with a wonderfully fulfilling feeling of wholeness—the positive, optimistic energy I call their “glow.”
Tenderness is at the root of my professional practice. It is at the root of the books I write. It is the essence of my humanity—and yours. So, welcome! Please, stay a while—let’s get to know one another.
As you scroll through this website, you will discover that The Tenderness Way has both an educational and a psychotherapeutic mission. I will show you why tenderness is a core psychology that motivates all human beings. You will learn that tenderness has its roots in amae, a Japanese word that eludes perfect English translation. Amae is a need for sweet, kindly affection from others. In earliest life it is our emotional nourishment. It implies a promise of wordless understanding, a trust that our needs will be met happily. And this need for adoring tenderness remains a silent wish all of our lives.
All of this is clearly explained in the WHY TENDERNESS? page. You will understand why this vital ingredient is missing in so many lives, as well as in the way we interact with Mother Earth—and why so much of this planet, this home we share, will continue to suffer and slowly die unless, here too, we become more tender.
Incidentally, the ABOUT section has two parts. One is About Faith, which is a précis of my professional background. The other part is About My New Book. If you read the Introduction and Chapter One I have posted here from Tenderness: The Way to a Deeper and Sweeter Connection with Ourselves, Each Other and Mother Earth, my book-in-progress, you will learn a lot more about tenderness, and how it shows up in the world today.
“Tenderness.” The word itself invokes an inner warmth. It is something positive, something spiritual, and sadly, far too often unattainable. This new website, TheTendernessWay.com encourages you to make tenderness a part of your everyday life. Here I will show you that not only is tenderness attainable, it can be cultivated. Developing a tenderness consciousness and way of being, this new brand of emotional intelligence I call TQ, can change your life!
For those of you who want to course correct, learn more about the importance of wholeness for your greatest psychological health and wellness, and live a more fulfilled and joyful life, visit SERVICES. Perhaps there’s an area of your mental health that you’ve neglected, or a part of you that feels stuck. This is where you will find a host of therapeutic offerings, including psychotherapy services and The Tenderness Way Workshop.
For those who wish to stay awhile, please navigate over to my ‘Under The Tenderness Tree’ BLOG which will offer timely topics you may find of interest in these general categories: Tenderness in Therapy, Tenderness in Nature, and Tenderness in Everyday Life.
This area is very special to me and I hope will come to be so for you: please don’t leave without a visit to COMMUNITY that I call “Tenderness Rising.” It’s a place where you can interact with like-minded people who share their tenderness experiences, and perhaps share a telling experience of your own. There you can also find educational, inspirational, eye-opening material, including articles, books, videos, songs, poems, profiles on People Who Glow and more from thought leaders, sages, journalists, authors and other change-makers.
As you visit with us your understanding of tenderness will take on new dimensions. It will no longer be a word you rarely use. Nor will tender experiences be uncommon occurrences in your life. Growing in tenderness you will experience a greater appreciation of yourself and others and a natural expansion of your well-being.
Are you ready to AWAKEN to your birthright and learn how to tender love and freely receive it? The time is now.
Our greatest strength lies in the gentleness and tenderness of our heart.